Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Just need to vent...

Those of you who know me or read my blog would know that I'm not one to usually have a whinge or gripe about things...especially on my blog.  But yesterday something happened that's been bugging me ever since...

Yesterday the kids and I headed to a local shopping centre for the morning.  I had to drop Ayden at a birthday party which he was so excited about (and had a great time at too!).  Once we'd dropped him off Riley, Madi and I had a little browse in our favourite shops.  I visited my fave shop Typo (and bought a couple of lovely things), Madi wanted to look at the puppies (she'd so love one!) in the pet shop...and Riley's favourite shop is the Australian Geographic Shop.  He LOVES going in there!

Anyway...it's no secret that Riley is our little Scientist. He loves all things Science which is why he loves this shop so much.
We decided to buy a little Dinosaur excavation kit for the kids to have a bit of fun with at home so we went to the counter to pay.  We said hello to the cashier and Riley proudly said to her "I love Science!" to which she replied "Well you're a weird kid then aren't you!"   WHAT???  Did she really just say that to him?  I mean we were in the Australian Geographic shop who specialises in selling all sorts of scientific things!

Now I know that she probably didn't mean it the way it came out...but to a little boy who's only just discovered his love of Science a comment like that can really discourage him and have a negative impact.  He responded by just saying "Yeah" and told her he got a rotating space gallery for Christmas (from that shop).  I think she realised what she had said and tried to save the conversation...but too late...she'd already told him he's weird!  Why don't people think before they speak to kids that way...especially in a store like that?!   


Shouldn't we be encouraging kids to love Science and school...or whatever it is they love to do?  Not tell them they're weird for doing it! Am I just being an oversensitive Mum?

Ok...that's my rant over. Thanks for listening!

Sheree xx

24 comments:

  1. I felt so sad reading this and can completely relate. This is a little bit different to science, but when my James was in kindergarten he had an obsession with dragons - LOVED reading about them, wondering and drawing anything dragon. He took a drawing of one to school and his teacher told him that there was no such thing as dragons. His fascination dropped off completely - no more wonder and magic of it. I was SO cross and sad for him at having something such a wonderful interest all squished by a teacher, who should have known better. Sigh.

    How dare a grown up mention 'weird' in the same sentence as Science, especially somebody that works in the National Geographic shop!! Science is something wonderful, interesting and oh so good to get the mind ticking over.

    Grr, I am so cross!!!

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    1. oh thats terrible Mel!! and I totally agree with you Sheree in a Science based shop what a thoughtless thing to say! P.S. I am testing out your comment response after our twitter convo.

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    2. Oh Mel I can't believe a teacher would crush him like that...so sad. We really try our best to encourage Riley with his love of science. He has such a passion for it! I'd hate for him to lose it over a silly comment from an unthinking adult.

      Sheree xx

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  2. OMGosh!! That is simply terrible. And SO not fair to Riley. Why do so many people open their mouths and say something so inappropriate, when they really should just keep it closed and smile.

    Vent away, my friend. You have every right...x

    ps - I hope his love of science continues and isn't put off by a comment not worth thinking about. Besides, aren't all "weird" scientists the ones with the greatest minds!! :D

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    1. Thanks Leanne. I hope so too! We encourage him every way we can.

      Sheree xx

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  3. Shame on her! Very thoughtless comment to make to an excited little boy.

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  4. Vent away girlfriend. I think that is totally insensitive!! Who says that??? I think it is AWESOME that Riley is passionate about something so young. I say Go Riley. Once again another thoughtless person speaking before thinking!!! Its the same as someone telling the girls they had a weird obsession with princesses. Hey life comes too quickly & too hard, let them dream I say!!! He will make an awesome scientist. If only all of us knew what we wanted to do/or passionate about at such a young age!!!
    M xxx

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    1. Thanks Mel. It doesn't take much to crush someone's self esteem. I wish people would just think more before they speak...especially to kids.

      Sheree xx

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  5. That is just so mean, I would be complaining to the store or to the chain itself? It is awesome that he loves Science, lots of kids do, I truly hope that one careless remark is quickly forgotten! And Mel's dragon story is equally as sad, can't believe a teacher of all people said that!

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    1. Thanks Fiona. Usually I'm not one for confrontation but I'm really considering it this time around!

      Sheree xx

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  6. That's a little concerning and to be honest I think the owners or Managers of the store would be horrified to know that a member of their staff actually said that out loud. That's like a Jenny Craig Consultant taking their clients to McDonalds for burgers. It's very inappropriate and should never have been said. You have way more restraint than me, I would've had a go at her and insisted that she phone her store manager so I could talk to them!

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    1. Thanks Nicky. To tell the truth Nicky at the time I was dumbfounded and a bit speechless that she'd said it to him...and was more worried about how he reacted. Didn't even think about confronting her there and then! I'm considering still contacting them though.

      Sheree xx

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  7. How completely insensitive. I hope your little man hasn't taken it on board too much.

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    1. Thanks Kerryn...he seems to be ok about it thankfully.

      Sheree xx

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  8. Oh I'd be venting too, I love those stores they sell so many things that encourage children to explore the world around them.

    I hope he hasn't taken it in and I hope his passion continues.

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  9. Thankyou! It's such a great store and sells so many wonderful educational things. We love going there and I don't think that will change. It's not our usual Aus Geo Shop so hopefully we won't come across that sales person again.

    Sheree xx

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  10. Grrr this makes me so cross...I have had similar experiences with a teacher and a nurse!!! saying inappropriate things to my big girl. Some ppl have no clue. I always think of a thousand things afterwards that I shoulda coulda said. What an interesting and clever boy you have Sheree. Science is cool!

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  11. Grrr this makes me so cross...I have had similar experiences with a teacher and a nurse!!! saying inappropriate things to my big girl. Some ppl have no clue. I always think of a thousand things afterwards that I shoulda coulda said. What an interesting and clever boy you have Sheree. Science is cool!

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  12. You need to let the manager know or in the very least contact them via email. I work in the retail industry and as much as you hope that your staff project the company image, there are times when they don't. If we don't get feed back we can not fix problems, we are not there 7 days a week managing the staff. The best/worst form of advertising is word of mouth. Kirsty

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  13. Oh no! that's terrible Sheree. I'm glad to hear that Riley seems to be OK about it though... it would be terrible to see him discouraged by one very silly persons insensitive comment.

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  14. Wow, it really makes you wonder why she would even choose to work in such a store if that is her attitude!! Good to hear that Riley hasn't taken it to heart.

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  15. Oh that is terrible, poor little man and yes I wouod be venting too. As I think someone else wrote speak to the manager, let them know that you were very unimpressed with her comments!!
    Cherie x

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  16. OMG! Gobsmacked! She's weird!

    I hope it mostly went over his head & he continues on with his love for science & really only notice of the positive reinforcement from home.

    Oh & can't believe hubby's op shopping. Score! Does he ever travel to Adelaide? I'll get him op shopping for me too hehe

    Kate M xo

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